As everyone knows you need a licence to have a pet, well how about one to raise children.
A terrible thing has happened in South East QLD, Australia today and has questioned who should be allowed to have children and who shouldn’t. Two little darlings aged 18 months were found dead in their house, 8 days after they died. There 11 year old sister discovered them, because “there was a bad smell coming from their bedroom.” This little girl who has had to grow up overnight then went on to her mother and said, ” I now know why you have been crying so much mum”. The parents were not mentally unstable and had no criminal record, so why did these little kids, who had just starting discovering the world, died in such a horrific and lonely way. According to the news reports, they hardly ever came out of the room they were found in, and that neighbours noticed something amiss with the other 4 kids, but did nothing.
http://news.ninemsn.com.au/article.aspx?id=581514
This brings me to ask the question, “Why does it take for a child to die, for people to take a stand”. I remember when we moved back to Melbourne, after our time in QLD. We decided to live in a suburb one hours drive out of the Melbourne CBD. It was a bayside suburb, and was a mixture of low and middle socio-economic backgrounds. Their was a part that was extremly wealthy, but mainly the other. Unfortunatly when you live in an area that has the low-socio economic background, you get the bad element with it. Where we lived was a mixture of the two and we had our fair share of “trailer trash”. Included in the “trailer trash” was always the ever present, abusive family, even though they are also in affulent families as well. Their was a particular little girl that went to school with my son. She was the child from an earlier relationship of the fathers, and the dads new wife, made sure she knew that. There were 4 other kids, from the current relationship, and they were also dressed properly and fed, but not this little one. She was extremly malnourished and always would come to school without socks on, and sometimes no jumper, even in the dead of winter. Aiden (my son), and numerous other kids, would often find her scouraging the school bins at lunchtime looking for food, as she was never fed properly at home. The other sister, had lunch, maybe not the best one, but she had food. I remember making a complaint to the school principal, not just for the worry of abuse, but also for the fact, that the father would abusively swear at the girls, when the school bus would pick them up. This too me, was not acceptable and I made a complaint. Well, the stepmum did not like that in the slightest and decided to abuse me one afternoon as we waited for the bus. She to this day, is lucky her boys were with her, or my fist would have met her face. She was not apologetic in anyway for the neglect of this girl, she blamed this girl, and said that she is a “bitch and troublemaker”, when in reality the other sister was the troublemaker. I remember talking to the bus driver and he too had major concerns for this little girl. Unfortunatly they moved back to QLD (Ironic or not), and nothing more could be done. I did call Human Services and they were familar with her case, and were doing the best they could. How typical of government departments.
Why do some parents feel the need to treat their children like garbage. My two, drive me absolutley crazy. My eldest is 9 years old and starting to get ready for those “lovely teen years”. He is moody, always tired, cranky and just plain hormonal. One of the ladies that works with my husband, said that it is quite normal for this age, as supposedly the body is preparing for what is going to happen in the next 2-3 years. And then, we have the “diva” who is just plain bratty half the time. Lauryn is bossy, annoying, lovable, demanding and on top of it, physically disabled, so hubby and I have a perfect reason to not want to raise our kids well, abuse them etc, but that is not us. There a 3 different types of mothers in my opinion.
1. Quiet and very diplomatic in their approach.
2. The screamer (which is my title), who yells everything (JOHNNY I HAVE TOLD YOU 3 TIMES TO STOP HITTING YOUR BROTHER), and I think is pretty much the standard mum and
3. The abuser, which does not need an explanation. The latter in my opinion needs a licence to raise kids.
Kids learn from their parents. They are not mind readers, and they look up to us to guide them, teach them and nurture them. People need to honestly look at themselves if they start abusing their kids. I know that sometimes children can really test you patience, but to neglect them to the point of no return, and then have no reason for it, other then “I did not feed them enough”, is just not enough. I personally am sick and tired of people with a handful of kids, whinging that they cannot afford to feed their children, or cloth them and then you see mum and dad are nice and fat, cigarettes in hand, and Dads on the dole. If you cannot afford to look after at least one kid, then close your legs and keep them closed until you can afford more. As I always say in situations where the Mum and Dad have too many kids and won’t look after them, “One is an accident, two is stupid.
Children are our future, and we need to make sure that they are looked after in the best possible way. Barack Obama speech on fatherhood, sums up so many things. Even though this speech is about fathers, I think even mothers can relate to it in some way.
I will leave you with that speech.
